The Perfect Unfolding: A Journey Through the Present Moment

Ernesto van Peborgh
7 min readAug 18, 2024

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  • Not too long ago, I found myself troubled by the incessant chatter in my mind. It seemed that every moment was consumed by doubts, regrets, and comparisons. I often questioned myself, wondering, Why am I going through this? or What if I canā€™t succeed?
  • These thoughts gnawed at my peace, creating a constant undercurrent of unease. I lived in a state of perpetual discontent, always feeling as though something was missing, as if I were somehow falling short.
  • Then, one day, I came across an ancient mantra that resonated deeply within me:

Purnamadah Purnamidam Purnāt Purnamudachyate, Purnasya Purnamādāya Purnamevāvaśishyate.

  • The translation spoke to something I had long sensed but could never quite articulate:

That is perfect. This is perfect. When perfection is taken from the perfect, perfect alone remains.

  • At first, I didnā€™t fully grasp its significance. How could everything be perfect when life felt so full of imperfections? But as I began to meditate on this mantra, repeating it silently to myself in moments of doubt, something inside me began to shift. The questions that once plagued me started to lose their grip, replaced by a deeper, more grounded understanding of lifeā€™s inherent wholeness.
  • The first true test came when I encountered a situation that, in the past, would have sent me spiraling into self-pity. Something unexpected and challenging happened, and the familiar question arose: Why is this happening? But this time, instead of dwelling on the unfairness of it all, I found myself asking, What is this teaching me? In that moment, the experience transformed. It was no longer something to be endured but something to be learned from. The mantra had begun to work its magic, showing me that every event, even the painful ones, was a part of the perfect unfolding of my life.
  • Soon after, I encountered another old nemesis: regret. I made a decision that, looking back, seemed foolish. The familiar voice in my head whispered, I should not have done that. But as I reflected on the mantra, I realized that this too was part of the perfection. I needed that lesson to grow, I told myself. And just like that, the heavy burden of regret lifted, replaced by a sense of gratitude for the experience and the wisdom it had brought me.
  • The comparisons that once consumed me also began to fade. I used to look around and think, Everyone is doing better than me. But the mantra reminded me that life is not a competition. I am not in competition with anyone, I started to affirm. And in this newfound acceptance, I discovered a sense of peace. I began to appreciate my own journey, realizing that it was perfectly tailored to me, with no need to measure it against anyone elseā€™s path.
  • Then came the fear of failure, a constant companion in my life. What if I fail? I would ask myself, the anxiety mounting with each new endeavor. But the mantra gently nudged me toward a different perspective. I failed became I learned, a statement that acknowledged the value in every setback. In this reframing, perfection is not about getting everything right, but about being willing to take risks, make mistakes, and grow from them. Each so-called failure is a stepping stone on the path to greater wisdom and understanding.
  • The mantraā€™s wisdom also extended to my worries about the future. What if this does not work out? I would think, fretting over every possible outcome. But What is meant for me will never miss me offered a profound reassurance: that life is unfolding exactly as it should, and that whatever is truly meant for us will come in its own time. The perfection here is in the trust that the universe is working in our favor, even when we cannot see it, and that we are being guided toward what is best for us.
  • Finally, the big question, the one that had haunted me for as long as I could remember: What am I doing with my life? This question was rooted in a deep-seated belief that I was somehow off course, that I was not living up to my potential. But the mantra offered a comforting answer: I am exactly where I am supposed to be. This simple truth brought me a profound sense of relief. I realized that every step I had taken, every choice I had made, had led me to this moment, and that this moment was perfect just as it was.
  • As the day unfolds, I begin to notice subtle changes in how I move through the world. Itā€™s as if the lens through which I perceive reality has shifted, allowing me to see beauty in places I once overlooked. The ordinary moments ā€” once rushed through or dismissed ā€” now hold a quiet significance. Each breath, each step, each interaction feels imbued with a sense of purpose, as if every thread in the tapestry of my life is woven with intention.
  • When I wake in the morning, thereā€™s no longer a rush to meet the demands of the day with a sense of urgency or inadequacy. Instead, I find myself greeting the dawn with a calm curiosity, wondering not what the day will bring, but what I might learn from it. The mantra lingers at the edges of my consciousness, reminding me that whatever happens will be perfect ā€” not in the sense of flawless execution, but in the sense of completeness. Each moment, I realize, is whole unto itself, containing within it all that is needed for my growth.
  • As I go about my tasks, whether mundane or challenging, the undercurrent of anxiety that once accompanied me is quieter now, replaced by a deeper trust in the unfolding of life. When obstacles arise, as they inevitably do, I no longer see them as barriers to my progress but as part of the intricate dance of life. The mantra echoes in my mind: What is this teaching me? and I find myself approaching difficulties with a sense of curiosity rather than dread. The fear of failure, which once loomed so large, has been transformed into a willingness to engage with whatever comes, knowing that even the so-called failures are perfect in their own right.
  • Throughout the day, as I interact with others ā€” whether friends, strangers, or those who challenge me ā€” I am more aware of the interconnectedness that binds us. The comparisons that once led to envy or insecurity now dissolve in the light of the mantraā€™s wisdom. I am not in competition with anyone, I remind myself, and in that reminder, I find compassion, both for myself and for others. I see that we are all walking our own paths, each one perfect in its unfolding, each one necessary for the wholeness of the greater journey.
  • As the day progresses, the mantra becomes a silent companion, guiding me through the inevitable uncertainties of the future. When doubt creeps in, whispering fears of what might or might not happen, I return to the truth that what is meant for me will never miss me. This realization is like a balm to my soul, soothing the restless urge to control outcomes, to force life to bend to my will. Instead, I find myself letting go, trusting that the river of life will carry me exactly where I need to go, in its own time, in its own way.
  • By the time evening falls and I reflect on the hours that have passed, I am no longer burdened by the question of whether I am on the right path or living up to some external standard. I am exactly where I am supposed to be, I tell myself, and in that acknowledgment, I find peace. I realize that the search for meaning, for purpose, for a sense of direction, is not something to be completed or achieved. It is a journey, a continuous unfolding that is perfect in its process. There is no destination, only the present moment, and in that moment, everything is as it should be.
  • As night deepens and I prepare for sleep, I feel a deep sense of gratitude for the day, for the lessons it brought, for the challenges it presented, and for the mantra that has become my guide. I drift into sleep with the words echoing softly in my mind: That is perfect. This is perfect. When perfection is taken from the perfect, perfect alone remains. And as I surrender to the darkness of the night, I know that I am held in the perfection of the universe, exactly where I am meant to be, in this moment and in every moment to come.
  • This experience is not a story of transformation that happens once and is then complete. It is a living, breathing process, an ongoing journey into the heart of what it means to be human, to live in a world that is at once challenging and beautiful, full of contradictions yet inherently perfect. Each day, each moment, is an invitation to step deeper into this understanding, to trust more fully in the perfection that underlies all of existence.
  • And so, as the day comes to a close, I continue to walk this path with an open heart, ready to embrace whatever comes, knowing that everything ā€” every joy, every sorrow, every triumph, and every failure ā€” is part of the perfect, unfolding story of my life. This is my truth, my experience, and it is perfect, just as it is.

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Ernesto van Peborgh

Entrepreneur, writer, filmmaker, Harvard MBA. Builder of systemic interactive networks for knowledge management.